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February 2, 2010 Charleston Gazette
Charleston, WV
Written By Sara Busse –Staff Writer


Mary Fayne Glotfelty spent a lifetime helping abused and troubled women and children. As a social worker, she went into homes, she went to court, she did what it took to take care of those in need.

Her late husband, Charles, was a true gentleman. "Especially around women," she said. Charles Glotfelty, who worked as a chemical engineer for DuPont, died a year and a half ago.

They both worked and saved, neither coming from wealth but each with a good job and a good work ethic.

In honor of her life's work and in honor of her husband's gentle spirit, Glotfelty, 88, recently gave a surprise donation to cap the YWCA $2 Million Challenge Campaign. The fundraising effort, led by Elizabeth Pellegrin and Freddy Davis, attracted nearly 500 donors. But with a deadline looming this past December, the fund was $200,000 short.

That's when Sue Sergi stepped in.

Sergi, president of the Charleston YWCA board of directors, worked under Glotfelty in her first job as a child welfare worker in 1969. She conceded she was intimidated by Glotfelty as her first boss.

"She was always beautifully dressed, and she knew so much. Eventually, we got to know her and became friends. I learned quite a bit from her," Sergi said. She told Glotfelty about the YWCA's programs that benefit women and that's when the idea of the gift came about.

"I think the YWCA does a beautiful job, and I wanted to honor my husband with this gift," the modest Glotfelty said of her $200,000 donation. "When I found out they needed this to reach their goal, I had to do it. He would have been pleased."

Glotfelty grew up in Fairmont. Her father died when she was 4, and her mother raised her and her sister as a single, working woman. Glotfelty gives her mother high praise for being such a role model. She went to Stephens College in Missouri and then earned a master's degree in counseling and social work from West Virginia University. She was a social worker in Kanawha County for years, eventually training other young social workers across the state.

"It's shocking the number of people who are abusing children," Glotfelty said. "Physical as well as sexual abuse. I believe the mental abuse is worse than the physical abuse. Emotionally, to tear a child down. It's cruel."

She said that maybe now the public is more aware of the incidents, but it's been happening for a very long time. Glotfelty shook her head, recalling one case that has stayed with her over the years.

"A man thought his solution to teaching his son to be toilet trained was to put a chemical in the boy's pants, so that if he wet, it would burn him," she said. "I remember taking the boy to the hospital, with the skin just falling off. It was horrible.

"But it doesn't just happen in poor families - it's congressmen. It's football players. It's widespread," Glotfelty said. Her passion for social work is evident.

It was through dance that the 32-year-old Mary Fayne met Charles. She was certified as a Latin and American dance teacher and taught at Lucas Studio in Charleston for years. She first taught young cotillion attendees to dance, but moved into adult classes later.

"The men who worked at DuPont were jealous of the Carbide boys, because DuPont was so far out there they didn't get to meet many girls after work. By the time they got finished with work, the women were already home. So he came, with his friends, to the dance studio to meet girls," she said.

Was Charles a good dancer? "Well ...," she said with a girlish giggle.

Charles "bugged me and bugged me to get married. I was in no hurry," she said. "I traveled right out of college - Asia, Japan, India, Vietnam, Europe. I wanted to see how other people lived. I would always ask them about their education systems, about their cultures."

While the Glotfeltys didn't have children of their own, Mary Fayne is proud of her sister's children like they were her own.

But social work was her calling, and she still talks about the pressures on children today. "Parenting now - well, it must be a nightmare. The peer pressure," she said.

Glotfelty is active in the volunteer community, working as treasurer of CAMC General Hospital's volunteer group.

The $2 Million Challenge started with a gift from the Lyell B. and Patricia K. Clay Foundation, with the goal of matching the $1 million Clay gift with money from other sources.

Pellegrin said the 18-month campaign reached its goal with a record number of new givers. Individuals, corporations and foundations all donated.

"In one case, a corporation - Mattress Warehouse/IMS - made a $40,000 gift to sponsor the bedrooms at our Hope House shelter for victims of domestic violence - and will be donating new bedding to the bedrooms, too." Another $200,000 donation came from the Mel Wolf Foundation.

The YWCA Resolve Family Abuse Program's activity center on Charleston's East End will now be called the Glotfelty Center, and the former YWCA Child Enrichment Center will be affectionately named "Mel's Place" (The YWCA Mel Wolf Center for Child Enrichment).

Glotfelty's nephew, Tom Bargeloh, visiting recently from New Mexico, described his aunt's interest in the services provided by the YWCA.

"She fought this thing - abuse - all her life through her work," Bargeloh said. "Now she's fighting it through funding."

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